“Addiction” is a hard word – loaded with stereotypes and emotions and stigmas. I knew that when I started thinking about this blog and I’ve been aware of it as I’ve been working on setting all this up.
To help with that, I’m changing the focus here from addiction recovery to “freedom from compulsive behaviors.” I’m hoping to add more mainstream information: teaching kids to moderate tv and sugar, eating well, alternates to addictive pain medications, dealing with emotion and challenges without food/shopping/gambling/pills, etc.
Needless to say, this is taking a while 🙂
Please stick around. The Dandelion Diaries should be back in action in a couple of months.
In the meantime, tune in to Facebook for some positive thoughts and check out the (upcoming) Pinterest boards for information and resources.
Thank you so much for inviting us over to your sugar infested lovely home to celebrate the holiday. Unfortunately, I need to decline the invitation, but John and the kids are excited to attend. Please excuse me, but I’m working towards making some personal changes in my life and hanging out in your donut filled happy home will be impossible for me.
Thank you for the years of ice cream fun and homemade chocolate chip cookies memories, but please don’t invite me to anything else, either. I need to take a break from any crunchy foods restaurants, any sweet foods parties, watching other people eat things I hate myself for eating celebrations, being within a mile of foods I’m afraid of special occasions, any yummy foods holidays, any homemade foods church activities, and any place where food is within reach or within sight or can be purchased social gatherings.
A frank introduction to what my addiction is and isn’t
“Everybody has problems,” she said.
“Take an antidepressant,” he suggested. (Maybe a bottle?)
“Try yoga,” they told me.
“Don’t be a perfectionist.”
“Just get over it.”
I also get told that I’m smarter than this. That I know better. That I don’t “look” like a girl with an eating disorder (not to mention an addiction), which leads people to assume I couldn’t have an eating disorder.
skills simplified: asking for help, part 2
AA groups warn new group members about the 10,000 pound telephone. This is more than a cute joke. Anyone in recovery who has tried to call for help in a moment of weakness understands how very hard it is to pick up the phone to call a friend or sponsor for support..
It doesn’t have to be this way. A few small pre-made plans can make a world of difference.
Here are five tips for making it easier to get help when you need it:
Skills Simplified: Asking for Help
There’s this uncomfortable thing we all must do sometimes. You probably won’t like it.
In fact, a recurring theme in recovery meetings and recovery literature is the challenge of asking for help. Often, being unable to ask for help was part of the problem that led to addiction.
Early in recovery, I didn’t know what to say to people who wanted me to do things with them on Wednesday nights. That was my recovery meeting night and it was sacred to me.
So the first few times family asked me to do something or go somewhere that would prevent me from getting to my meeting, the scenario played out like this:
Loving family member: “Why can’t you come to [activity]?”
Me (ashamed to admit I go to a 12-step meeting): “I’m busy.”
Family: “What’s more important than [activity]?”
Me (feeling cornered and angry): “I’ve got a thing.”
Family: “Is it school? I’m sure you can miss.”…